Monthly Archives: December 2008

YOU Give Them Permission To Frustrate You



Yes, YOU give them permission. By your actions and by your words you say, “Go ahead, frustrate me to no end, I love it.”

Now grant it, you don’t like it, but they don know it. Sometimes you’ve even thought that YOU had patience with people.  Quit fooling yourself, it’s not patience, it’s endurance.

Many days you are so weary, not from what you do in life, but because you’ve allowed others to inflict verbal pain on you. You not only get frustrated with them, you get frustrated with yourself because you let them do it to you.

You wish they wouldn’t.  Your feelings get hurt when they do it, especially the people you love the most.  You would think they would know how you feel.

Now let me share some powerful information with you.  Are you listening? Are you paying attention?  Now look at me.

Stop giving them permission!

Quit allowing them to do this to you.  The Bible says that patience is a fruit of the Spirit.  But what you’re doing is trying to grow a fruit but you kill it with your disdain for those who frustrate you.

It is perfectly fine to say to someone, “It is my preference that you not talk to me that way.”  Now I hear you.  You say, “But I have to be nice or I’ll be fired from my job or I’ll lose my marriage.”  Who said anything about being mean or ugly?  Do it with a smile.  You have a right to say to others exactly how you feel about them frustrating you.

The more you do it, the easier it will get.  Tell them just like you tell them it’s a beautiful day or isn’t this great weather.

Try it, go ahead.  I dare you.  You’ll find out that you’ll be happier and others will respect you more.

Now quit giving permission to others to frustrate you and start enjoying your life.

That’s what I think about it


Perception is Everything

What is it about Christians?

“I are one”, as someone once said. I can talk intelligently and lovingly about my own kind and that’s what I’m going to do.

When I read the life of Jesus, it’s not quite as accurate as the way my Sunday school teachers taught it when I was growing up.  No, I have found he was more a revolutionary than a Santa Claus type.

He was one who meant business, loved the human race and wanted the religious group to tone it down a bit.

That’s what so interesting about Jesus life is that the group that gave him the hardest time in his life was the religious crowd.

I know a few like that.

You know as a pastor, I try to compel and persuade folks to come to church, learn about Jesus Christ and become a follower of him.

However many times I run into opposition based on their past dealings with Christians or their perception of Christianity by the testimony of the people they know.

If we’re going to win others to Jesus Christ we’ve got to do a better job with the image we present.

I mean why is it that church can be the most boring place to go and yet we still go?  Pastors must do a better job in keeping the workings and life of Christ more vibrant than they do.  Someone said that preaching is just the gospel being strained through the personality of the presenter.  So, if you can’t make your sermons more interesting and compelling, maybe you should find something else to do.  Let’s make it more exciting for people.

Or how about the 350 pounder religious zealot who preaches that smoking is wrong.  I think there is something wrong about that picture.

Now you have the person who is the biggest gossip in the church who condemns anyone who drinks a glass of alcohol.  I think Jesus said something about removing the 2X4 out of your own eye before you try to remove the splinter out of the other persons’ eye.

Let’s do a better job folks.

That’s what I think about it.

Making An Impact; Financially

moneyChristians need to be making an impact in our country in five areas; physically, mentally, socially, spiritually and financially.

One of the biggest complaints I hear out of businesses is that some Christians are lousy businessmen and women and are always late paying their bills.  Maybe this is why we all want to believe in prosperity so much.

Maybe it’s because Christians play the lottery more than they tithe and trust God.

Nevertheless, if we’re going to make an impact on our culture and society, we’ve got to be more determined and resolute to become financial experts and examples.

Who is the wealthiest Christian you know.  You’ve heard of Bill Gates and Warren Buffet, but exactly who is the Christian that we can point to that understands money?  Hard to answer isn’t it.  I frankly don’t know the answer to that question.

We as believers ought to be striving to be the best at financial dealings, responsibility and ingenuity.  We can rely and trust the wisdom of God to give us the greatest and best direction anyone could and can get.

We need to be teaching our children and our grandchildren the same thing.

Money is the god of this world.  Money makes things happen and the same is true of ministry.  Money follows ministry as I heard someone say.

The world ought to be going to Christians to get financial advice.  The church ought to be the leader in the financial world.

Here’s something to think about.  If we all had the attitude of watching our financial testimony and doing the best one could possibly do, how do you think the world would be today if believers ran the financial markets?  I think different.

Let’s impact our community and country in the area of finances for the cause of Christ

That’s what I think about it.

Making An Impact; Spiritually

Christians need to be making an impact in our country in five areas; physically, mentally, socially, spiritually and financially.

Today we celebrate the birth of our savior, Jesus Christ. We honor his legacy and his majesty.

However, we must realize that there are those who despise and literally hate this day, not only in America but around the world.

That’s sad to me.

It’s sad because these are people who don’t know about Jesus Christ, the freedom he offers and eternal life.

We’re not making an impact on these people.  We’ve got to leave church on Sunday mornings with the intent of impacting our culture spiritually.

Throughout this season we’ve heard non-believers say things like, “happy holidays” and “seasons greetings”.

We’ve heard on the news about the ignorance of those who place words of discredit beside manger scenes indicating that there was no such event that ever occurred.

I believe if Christians became a more formidable force and determined more than ever to make every person they meet and know become followers of Jesus Christ that we would once again turn this world upside down.

We’ve got to do better than we’re doing.

The church has become so complacent in the area of wanting to compel others to the knowledge of Jesus Christ.

Don’t cop out by say, “Well not everyone wants to know about Jesus.”

While that may be true, it’s not for us to be selective in our sharing.

As you remember the purpose of this day, as you are creating memories with your family and friends, take time to commit yourself to make an impact on everyone you know and this time next year they will be making memories and celebrating along with you.

You can feel so much better next year as you celebrate knowing that you impacted so many lives spiritually.

That’s what I think about it.

Making An Impact;Socially

Christians need to be making an impact in our country in five areas; physically, mentally, socially, spiritually and financially.

Our society is literally out of hand and messed up.  Where are the Christians?

It’s becoming more common to see Christian socializing with only Christians.

I think it’s mainly because they are afraid to come out of their comfort zone.

It could be because we’ve been so intimidated by those who aren’t that we are timid to become socialites.

Jesus was a socialite.  He ran so much with society that the religious crowd criticized him for it.

He knew that in order to make an impact on his country and culture that he had to be among them and be a part of them.

I’m amused how bold some people are at church and how timid these same people are outside of the four walls.  I’ve seen some in business meetings be so bold that if they acted that way in public they would be literally beaten, bruised and some may perhaps be killed out of hatred.

Christians cannot afford to be politically correct in many circumstances.  Neither can we just stand around and allow the separation between church and state to become code for we just don’t want God in America.

We can’t allow our counties, like Chesterfield, to continue saying we cannot pray in Jesus name at the opening of their business meetings. We can impact this area by Christians voting out the men who support this and don’t have the guts to stand up to the ACLU.

Christians, I strongly urge you impact your society.  I’m building a church based on seeing people leave ready and wanting to impact the world.

I’m building people who want to do more than just be entertained. They want to do something about their society.

That’s what I think about it.


Making An Impact; Mentally


Christians need to be making an impact in our country in five areas; physically, mentally, socially, spiritually and financially.

I’ve never known of a time where people are so medicated because of mental conditions.

We as Christians have got to make an impact on our culture in this area.

In a world where many Christians are view as being schizophrenic or delusional, we’ve got to get to the place where we are complimented because of our mental capability instead of criticized for it.

We ought to have some of the smartest and most brilliant people on the planet.

Christ ought to be praised because of the mental accomplishments of people.  He taught us to be wise not stupid.

The Bible teaches us to do all to the glory of God, not just get by.

We cannot be poster children of the dumb, lazy and unlearned.

Even in the pulpits some pastors show their ignorance by not sufficiently studying or having educational qualifications needed for intelligent leadership.  (I’ve actually heard some brag on their lack there of)

Our society should have men and women who excel in life because of Christianity and their relationship to Jesus Christ.

Our schools of higher education should have students who are Rhodes scholars and honor students who purposefully strive for mental success as a result of being a follower of Jesus Christ.

If we’re going to make an impact on our world we’ve got to make it a point to be the best academically as we possibly can be for the cause of Christ.

Let’s make an impact on those around us by being more mentally alert, astute and aware.

Christian doctors, lawyers, financial investors, senators and such will be more able to reach men and women and boys and girls for Jesus than most would.

What are we waiting on?

Let’s make a mental impact.

That’s what I think about it.


Making An Impact; Physically


Christians need to be making an impact in our country in five areas; physically, mentally, socially, spiritually and financially.

Right now, all we’re doing is going to church on Sunday, listening to music and preaching and that’s about it.

We work toward building big churches but for what?

Don’t get me wrong, I’m working on impacting as many as I can for Jesus but here’s my point.

I can draw a crowd by setting my car on fire in the middle of my street.

I can draw a bigger crowd by setting my house on fire.

People will say this guy is so cool.  He does the funniest things.  But all I’m doing are things that draw crowds.

I’ve been there.  I’ve done that.

I’ve had the Christmas and Easter productions that drew the thousands.  I did the Sunday morning thing where people would come and enjoy the music.

But they would just leave like the folks did after watching the car and the house burn, ready to come back and see something bigger.

When are we going to learn?

People, we’ve got to start leaving church and making an impact on our community.

Let’s start affecting people physically. Let’s become people of God who are examples of a physically fit lifestyle and not fat and lazy people.  Let’s quit eating junk that cause the illnesses and disease that leads us to have to be the ones who need the miracles.

Let’s be the one who impacts our community by taking care of these temples of God.

Put down the chicken and the mash potatoes.  Let’s work that gut and butt off and get in shape for Jesus sake.

That’s what I think about it