So you get married, and the time spent in courtship was heavenly. You shared everything. Why, because you were in love. You couldn’t spend enough time with that person. However, as you matured and find out more about yourself and your spouse, some things slowly begin to change.
You begin to learn your spouse has idiosyncrasies; behavioral characteristics. Unfortunately, you begin to learn that there are just some things that they don’t agree with you on or things that get on your last nerve or even things that make you appalled about them. Gross.
Somewhere along the line you start becoming cautious and guarded in what you say to them, knowing that the wrong word might trigger a response that you just wouldn’t quite like or in which you agree. In fact, you become so selective that you tread on the line between deception and lying. There are just some things you don’t want them to know about you. Why do you do that?
Well for one, you just don’t have the courage or the freedom to discuss this with them. You already know how they are going to respond, so why even bring it up, right? You already know that they either won’t like it, will disagree with you or they will be offended that you even thought of such a thing, much less you hiding it from them.
Look, sit down with your spouse and be unyielding and resolute that the future is going to be healthier than the past. Don’t evaluate or live your future according to your past. Quit trying to play fortune teller and act like you know the future. Go into the conversation believing that things are going to be improved, that you believe in yourself and your other half, and get things out in the open once again. However, one word of caution; use wisdom.
Wisdom comes from God, so be prayerful. Ask God to help you as you enter into this get-together. Then, by faith, believe that you and your spouse are going to come out on the other side of the discussion better people. Go slow, and be very articulate. You’ll find marriage can be greater and better than ever.
That’s what I think about it.