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Where Have All The Men Gone?

rosie1Pete Seeger wrote the song, “Where Have All the Flowers Gone?”  The lyrics in the song continue to say, “long time passing” and “when will they ever learn?”  I feel like singing that song today and changing the lyrics to, “Where have all the men gone? Long time passing. When will they ever learn?”  We are living in a time where the women have been forced to step to the front because men have either quit taking their rightful spot as leaders or have acquiesced to stronger women. Where have all the men gone?

When I look at churches and even my own church, the ratio of women to men is right at the average of the survey; six women to every four men.  Can you grasp that?  For every 10 people who attend church services on Sunday morning, four of them are men.   It is irony to know that a man who selected 12 other men to help Him start Christianity has now developed into a feminist organization. Where have all the men gone?

Most men in the church, as a whole, would rather not hear that statistic.  They want to know that the men are still strong and doing well.  Well, sad to tell you, that is not the case.   I, for one, am grateful for every man and boy in my church.  I tell them so.  They, I’m sure like most men in church today, do their best at whatever they put their hands too.  Where have all the men gone?

I even heard a startling report that the majority of the protesters in Iran are women.  Women are forced to come to the forefront and do what men are expected to do but have abandoned their posts.  Where have all the men gone?

Now I’m not naïve enough to think that all this stuff about men is all their fault.  I know there are some women who would just rather the men stay at home and let them do all the leadership responsibility.  However, I think I would be safe to say that this attitude would be the opinion of the minority.

Is this how we’re going to end this world?  Is this where the future of the world is heading?  I don’t know.  But what I do hope is that men would come out of the dugout, pick up a bat and step up to the plate.  While I know it’s comfortable in the dugout with the bench, water and the shade, it’s time to play ball.  Where have all the men gone?

That’s what I think about it.

DTW – http://www.exaltationchurch.com

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Looking For Love In All the Wrong Places!

pi-exhibitWaylon Jennings sang a song called “Looking For Love In All the Wrong Places” and the chorus says…

I was looking for love in all the wrong places

Looking for love in too many faces

Searching your eyes, looking for traces

Of what.. I’m dreaming of…

Hopin’ to find a friend and a lover

God bless the day I discover

Another heart, lookin’ for love

There are so many people everyday in our lives that are looking for love.  They are looking for it in so many places.  Sure, I could name a few where they are looking for it and not finding it.  Places like the local bar, clubs, social organizations, match a mate services and even church.  People, by nature, want to be loved.  People, by creation, need to be loved.  So who is going to love them, and how are we going to show that love?

We have opportunities everyday to show people agape.  The Emmaus organization is founded upon the principle that God’s agape is all around us.  We just need to receive it by faith and release the overflow to others.  If you’ve ever gone on an Emmaus weekend you understand and comprehend the overwhelming agape that is given to a pilgrim.  By the time the weekend is over, the pilgrim has been blessed by a weekend filled with acts of servitude and gifts of love.

It’s a great weekend, believe me.

However, we need to look for giving love in all the right places.  We ought to everyday wake up with the attitude that we’re going to serve people all day long.  When someone comes to your mind, you ought to ask yourself, “How can I show that person love today?”  What is it that we can do or say that will convince that person that we truly agape them? How can I show the agape of God to others that will persuade them to be a believer of God through the teachings of Jesus Christ?”

Our acts of agape can go so much further than the “niceties” of the world.  Jesus taught us how to agape others and showing us the agape of the Father.  When others see our love for them, they will see God in us.  Isn’t that the way Jesus taught it?

Imagine living in a world where you were served by everyone?  What would that be like?  A place where you could do nothing for yourself because everyone wanted the chance to do things for you?  Nice, huh?  See, that’s what we need to in order to show people that they have been looking for love in all the wrong places.  Now, show them that they can look for love in the right place.  That place is found in you.

When you get the napkins at the restaurant get several and give them to your friends.  When you get your coke refilled, offer to refill your friends.  When you get coffee, see if someone else wants coffee.  When you want something think of others as well.

I want to go to a church like that.  As I hit the parking lot, I’m overwhelmed with love.  Maybe it’s just me, but I’d love that.

That’s what I think about it.

DTW – http://www.exaltationchurch.com

Does Agape Ever Come Under Fire?

Agape is a powerful tool and weapon. love3 While that may sound like an oxymoron, it really isn’t. So you ask the question, “How can love be a tool and a weapon?”

Jesus said that if our enemies were harsh and mean that our reaction to them should mirror that which they have done, but to “heap coals of fire on their heads.” What is this fire that He speaks of? It is the fire of Agape.

When you feel like your Agape is being tried and tested by those who would frustrate you to no end or get on your last nerve, remember that Agape cannot really be tested. It was examined, tested and tried on the cross, and it cannot be tested anymore. It has God’s seal of approval all over it.

Jesus said, “I have overcome the world and you will too because of the agape that I have and have instilled in you.” God said that His agape is shed or poured out into our hearts. That means that we have the DNA of agape in our bodies as a result of Jesus’ act of agape on the cross. Jesus said that the ultimate act of agape was that a man lay down his life for a friend. So if that is the ultimate, what are the simpler acts of agape before that? Anything good you do in agape for anyone is great. Be happy and encouraged by that!

You might think that someone is testing your agape by frustrating you or overwhelming you with their personalities or nuances. Nope. You can’t test something that has already been tested, tried and proven. What is happening to you is that the maturity level of agape is being tried. How much have you matured in agape?

Do people, circumstances and situations still cause you anxiety and frustration? Do you find yourself still dealing with jealously, aggravation and envy? If so, you have a whole lot more to learn and a lot more to grow in agape. However, don’t be dismayed at your progress. Agape is a growing process. It is one of those “line upon line, precept upon precept” things that the Holy Spirit teaches us in our maturity.

There will be a time when anxieties are a thing of the past. You will encounter life without frustration. You will joy in others delights and, in fact, you will be able to encourage them instead of being envious and jealous. Your life will be full of faith and creative ideas based upon the fact that you agape the one who created you, everything about you, everything that causes you joy and happiness, and He agapes you so much that He will delight in you as well.

Jesus’ prayer was to let it be done on earth as it is in heaven. Heaven is full of agape. Heaven is full of people who have equality in love. No one agapes one over the other. Agape is not judgmental, nor does it practice prejudice. Let’s begin to share that atmosphere of agape here on earth.

That’s what I think about it.

DTW-www.exaltationchurch.comeclogo13

Stop the Deception!

love_3_by_mjagiellicz1Just stop! I use to think I really knew what love was all about. I have to confess that what I thought was love, was not really love at all. In fact, it was a form of love that earthlings have come to believe as love ever since the fall of man. Wow, were we deceived. Then we started saying how much we loved this and how much we loved that-when all we were professing was a form of love the Greeks called, “phileo love.” The word was well known, but there was a serious problem with it. It wasn’t good enough.

No? No.

It only had a shelf life of a few years. Some brands lasted only for a few moments. Others, not even a few months. We used that love to express some emotional need (that we felt in our brain) to tell others that we “loved” them. But we used that same word for our dog, our cat, our car, our children, our house, our president, our neighbor, our sofas, our dentist, our church, our spouses and even God. Now how can that be? How can that be authentic love? We’ve been deceived.

Men and women take vows and say “till death do us part,” only to find out that the shelf life on their love had expired way before death ever thought about coming around. Friends say I love you, only to realize that that wasn’t a good brand of love they bought into and eventually say, “sorry, I must part ways with you now.” How about the brand of love found at the end of a date that causes you to fall for that guy and do anything for him just because he said he loved you? Where did you buy that love? At the dollar store?

Phileo love is good, but not good enough. If Sears were selling it, it would be in the better section of the store. You know, they sell stuff like good, better, best. Phileo love is not the love that glues friendships, lovers, spouses, parents and children together. When we use the same kind of love for a spouse and a dog, then something is not right. I know–I hear you clearly shouting at me, “THERE ARE DIFFERENT KINDS OF LOVE!” No, calm down. There are different “depths” of phileo love but it’s all the same.

Agape is a love, created by God, which causes man to bond in a way that is like super glue. It’s not artificial. It’s not a love substitute. It’s not cheap and ugly. It’s lasting and pure.

Not many people understand or know about agape. Yet. Even in the “best of the best” respected books in Christianity, such as Richard Foster’s “Celebration of Discipline,” not one word is mentioned about the discipline of agape love. It’s difficult to find those who really understand it.

I don’t use the word love much anymore because it is so overused and has such contempt with it. I use the word agape because it means more than love to me. It means what I feel and say.

So who has deceived us? More on that tomorrow.


That’s what I think about it.


DTW – http://www.exaltationchurch.comeclogo12

Tattoos: Not For Me

religious-christian-jesus-neck-tattoos-flash-designs-tattoo-pictures-gallery-tattoo-art2Tattoos have been around for as long as anyone can remember. They are an art to themselves. Some people have dedicated their lives to doing the work of tattoos. Some call it skin art. Others have used their bodies as a canvas for tattoo artists.

In doing research for this topic I found four interesting facts from a Harris Survey.

o Thirty-six percent of those ages 18 to 25, and 40 percent of those ages 26 to 40, have at least one tattoo, according to a fall 2006 survey by the Pew Research Center.

o The National Geographic News stated in April 2000 that 15% of Americans were tattooed (or approximately 40 million people!)

o Esquire Magazine estimated in March 2002 that 1 in 8 Americans was tattooed.

o According to the American Society of Dermatological Surgery, they stated in 2005, that of all the people they treat with laser and light therapy, only 6% are getting a tattoo removed.

o Harris Poll, 2003, estimates that fully 36% of those aged 25-29 have one or more tattoos.

o A 2006 a study done by the Journal of the American Academy of Dermatology found that 24% of Americans between 18 and 50 are tattooed; that’s almost one in four. And the survey showed that about 36% of Americans age 18 to 29 have at least one tattoo!

There are Christians who feel that having a tattoo is taboo. They adhere to the Old Testament principal that marking up your body is wrong. Other Christians have no problem with it and many have religious tattoos placed on their body to honor God.

Some Christians do it for fun. Some out of curiosity.

Me? Well I’ve thought about it several times. Sometimes out of curiosity, sometimes out of doing something I had never done before. As my personal belief whether it is right or wrong? I think this one is totally up to the individual and his relationship to God. I don’t find anything wrong with doing it as long as it is in good taste.

Now would I get one? Most likely not. For reasons you might be surprised. I dislike anything with pain. I definitely don’t like the idea of a needle blasting my skin so many times. But then again, I’m won’t rule it out either.

That’s what I think about it.

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Feeling Trapped????

feeling-trappedMany people whether Christian or otherwise, exist in a way of life they feel trapped in. It doesn’t matter whether it’s real or imagined; it is still a feeling of being trapped.

Their personal perception is stronger than reality.

So, how do you handle such a predicament?

Did you suddenly end up here or has it been gradual, over a period of time?

You see, it still doesn’t matter. The fact of the matter is, you’re feeling trapped and you don’t know what to do about.

You’ve talked to everybody that you know you can trust. You’ve done your research on the internet. You’ve lain awake at nights pondering the options. You’ve wondered how all this could have happened to you.

It doesn’t matter in what area you are feeling trapped in; it’s all the same.

Whether it’s your health, your marriage, your finances, your job, a relationship, no matter what it is, it has you bewildered, frustrated and depressed.

You keep asking yourself two questions; why me and how can I get out of this?

First of all you have to keep in mind two things truth and honesty.

There is a truth to your situation. You have to seek truth to discover the foundational reason for what you’re in.

Secondly, you have to remember to be honest with yourself and anyone else who is involved with you in your dilemma. This is not only therapeutic for you; it shows everyone else that you are authentic in your wanting to fix things.

Lying will only deceive yourself and cause others not to trust you or believe in you.

When you are honest with yourself and others then you will begin to see progress in breaking free from your bondage. This is the beginning of happiness for you and joy for others.

When you begin to seek the truth you will find why you were in this situation and how not to ever end up here ever again.

Jesus was so right on when he said the truth will set you free. You don’t have to be trapped. You don’t have to feel like someone has a pillow on top of your head and you’re smothering.

Admit to yourself and others your predicament and He will help you find your path to freedom. When you lean on the Lord Jesus Christ and quit relying on you, you’ll find your life to be much easier and definitely happy.

Or then again, you could ignore all the above and wait for the guys in the white coats.

It’s your choice.

That’s what I think about it.

DTW – http://www.exaltationchurch.com

State Automobile Inspections – Our Stimulus Package

100_4258Now, I realize that Obama wants to put out the 850 trillion stimulus package but the stimulus package is already in place. It’s called state automobile inspections. Let me explain.

In Virginia, as we all know, we have to have our automobiles inspected for an annual fee of $16.00. Now that’s fine.

However…

If during the microscopic (or it seems like) MRI that they perform on the automobile comes up “with something wrong” what was suppose to be $16 ends up being $300 or more dollars. There’s your stimulus package I’m telling you!

Let me break it down for you.

I go to Merchants Tire. “I would like to have my Explorer inspected and oil changed”

They call me three hours later and say the brake pads on the back are bad and they cannot approve it unless the replace them for $189.00. OK….

So when I go back in here’s what I see on my bill;

Oil change (synthetic oil for an older automobile) $59.99

Haz-Material dispensing charge $ 3.00

VA Inspection $16.00

Sure stop rear brake service (found out later this was

an overcharge) $10.00

Disc Brake Pads $79.99

Sure stop Brake package for labor $100.00

Shop fees (now this is for any hand cleaner, paper seat

covers or paper floor mats they might use.

I asked the man did they use them an his answer

was; “I assume.”) $19.00

All taxes $ 8.60

Grand Total $296.58

It’s all in the grand scam of things. If you don’t let them fix it, you lose. You get a circle with a line through it sticker place on your windshield. You are at the mercy of the court of inspectors. You don’t win.

I’m sure it has happened and more so to a lot of people than just me.

Now I just praise the Lord that we had the money to fix it! Hallelujah!

Now, please don’t say, “Well you could look at it this way.” If they hadn’t fix you’re brakes something worst could have happened.

Yeah, and I could have used the money for something else until I heard those little babies screeching and screaming…”FIX ME!”

Well I just pray that Merchants will keep their employees hired and not fired nor laid off during this wretched economy. I hope they are just paid well with great benefits.

As for state inspections..now that is another blog for another time.

That’s what I think about it.

DTW. http://www.exaltationchurch.com